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Offering a fresh perspective on what is truly needed to create balance with one's environment. It is about encouraging collaboration rather than competition that is fuelled by power struggles for personal value.

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        Let me share with you a speech I did at City Hall a few years ago for a specific group; this is what we will work on deconstructing. The word "abuse" is outlined but there are many others that can be used instead such as power struggles, narcissism, gas-lighting, competition, less than, discrimination, etc.

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"Abuse offers no support. Abuse takes away support. Abuse assumes the worst of support as abuse (and neglect) assumed the worst of me. 

Support came through being inferior, not being equal and being non-existent. Support depressed me. I did not trust support as the support wanted to take all the good from me.

Being a wife and mother of 4, I have come to understand, through my own role modelling as well as the influences from childhood, the many ways that support can empower and the many ways support can hurt.

When support hurts, it’s because it is ignoring the needs and interests of the person being assisted.

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Support that hurts can look like:

• Let’s be friends – lack of boundaries

• I’m the teacher – patronizing attitude of knowing best

• I’m superior– you need me; I don’t need you

• care-taking, people pleasing, overcompensating- smothers and suffocates

• Support with the underlying “What’s in it for me?”

• Stay loyal to the family’s way- support to keep you down; to not outshine

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When support empowers, it’s because of being aware of the other person’s existence as being valued and equal.

Empowered support looks like: 

• Being attentive- to the spark of interest and sparkle of joy

• Being active- going beyond lip service to follow through with taking an active role in the mission

• Being accountable- a) support them in being accountable to follow through with what is best) being accountable by being transparent; taking responsibility; vulnerability (where do I stop to allow  them to start)

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Where are you in that balancing of support? Sometimes it is hard to know. We believe we are being empowering when we are actually depressing what is right for the person.​

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What are we supporting? Drum role please.  Self-Importance: “a fact or state of being value."

 

Let’s connect them:

Support that hurts is trying to prove that they are important. There is a sense of incompleteness within; try to fill the void by DOING.  Support that nurtures knows their importance and there is nothing to prove or fill as they feel complete. When they give of support, they are BEING.

You cannot value what you cannot view as important. We know we need to care about the car, the house and the pets but we don’t put in as much care about our personal importance.

Only when you can see your intention as important, can you see the individual contribution to it, value to the mission.  ​

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It is time to create that change that has been neglected:

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Hire Wise Core Consulting to come and spend a few weeks monitoring interactions, following through with complaints and the play out of power struggles. Let us identify what is working from that which is a hot topic to accept and deal with.

Sometimes it's about identifying the source that leadership has normalized right to uphold.

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Connect with us to learn how to allow Life to flow in your organization.

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